Sahih al-Bukhari 3863

It is related that 'A'isha said, "When the news arrived of the deaths of Ibn Haritha, Ja'far ibn Abi Talib and 'Abdullah ibn Rawaha, the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, sat down and his grief was clearly visible. I was looking through a crack in the door. A man came to him and said, 'Messenger of Allah, the women of Ja'far.'" She said, "And he mentioned their weeping. He told him to forbid them." He said, "The man went and then returned saying that he had forbidden them but they had not obeyed him." He said, "He commanded him to go again, and he went and returned yet again and said, 'By Allah, they are too much for us.'" She claimed that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Put dust in their mouths." 'A'isha said, "I said. 'May Allah rub your nose in the dust! By Allah, you did not do what he ordered you to do nor did you spare the Messenger of Allah's distress!'"